Comments on: Pass It On http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/2010/03/pass-it-on/ Tulsa Events, Art, Music, Food & Families Fri, 03 Feb 2012 16:20:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Gigi http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/2010/03/pass-it-on/#comment-1828 Gigi Mon, 08 Mar 2010 16:28:01 +0000 http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/?p=483#comment-1828 Thank you, Tasha. <br /><br />Love, Mom Thank you, Tasha.

Love, Mom

]]> By: Tasha http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/2010/03/pass-it-on/#comment-1827 Tasha Mon, 08 Mar 2010 16:15:38 +0000 http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/?p=483#comment-1827 For the record, everyone, my mom is and was not a spanker. A rascal in her own right, but not a spanker. As a writer and blogger I'm a big proponent of responsible creative license. In this case I crossed a line, feelings were hurt as a result and I elected to rework the offending section of the post. <br /><br />PDeverit, while I have a very open comments policy here at TDT, I think most everyone would agree that you took a select few words in this post, twisted them and used them as a platform for your own agenda. Needless to say, I didn't appreciate it, but I would appreciate it if you wouldn't do it again. <br /><br />Peace, puppies and rainbows, <br />Tasha For the record, everyone, my mom is and was not a spanker. A rascal in her own right, but not a spanker. As a writer and blogger I'm a big proponent of responsible creative license. In this case I crossed a line, feelings were hurt as a result and I elected to rework the offending section of the post.

PDeverit, while I have a very open comments policy here at TDT, I think most everyone would agree that you took a select few words in this post, twisted them and used them as a platform for your own agenda. Needless to say, I didn't appreciate it, but I would appreciate it if you wouldn't do it again.

Peace, puppies and rainbows,
Tasha

]]> By: Gigi http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/2010/03/pass-it-on/#comment-1826 Gigi Mon, 08 Mar 2010 14:35:26 +0000 http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/?p=483#comment-1826 Hmmmmm! Having a child bringeth much understanding. It warms my heart to see my baby grandson, with his precious brand of Sam, cause my daughter to have plenty of Ah-ha's. I believe he helps her understand that her mom reallllllly is a good person, ha! Even the greatest mom in the world would NOT enjoy hearing about the antics that have been done in their most favorite car ever, the Jeep Wrangler. Youth has no concern for the caring of things. My Jeep did not return the way it left, but, hopefully, it taught Tasha some maturity and responsibility. It didn't temper her mischevious nature, though. I'm very happy for that. I think it runs in the family :) Hmmmmm! Having a child bringeth much understanding. It warms my heart to see my baby grandson, with his precious brand of Sam, cause my daughter to have plenty of Ah-ha's. I believe he helps her understand that her mom reallllllly is a good person, ha! Even the greatest mom in the world would NOT enjoy hearing about the antics that have been done in their most favorite car ever, the Jeep Wrangler. Youth has no concern for the caring of things. My Jeep did not return the way it left, but, hopefully, it taught Tasha some maturity and responsibility. It didn't temper her mischevious nature, though. I'm very happy for that. I think it runs in the family :)

]]> By: Christine http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/2010/03/pass-it-on/#comment-1825 Christine Mon, 08 Mar 2010 14:18:43 +0000 http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/?p=483#comment-1825 (First of all, oh my! I believe PD should re-read your post five or six times and possibly maybe sorta rethink his or her response. Just maybe.)<br /><br />Second, how beautiful was that day for him to get outside! I can so see my boys doing the same thing. And as he gets older, you'll think "finally he's not in to this or that..." But be on your guard: that just means his crafty little mind has moved on to something else. : ) He's adorable! (First of all, oh my! I believe PD should re-read your post five or six times and possibly maybe sorta rethink his or her response. Just maybe.)

Second, how beautiful was that day for him to get outside! I can so see my boys doing the same thing. And as he gets older, you'll think "finally he's not in to this or that…" But be on your guard: that just means his crafty little mind has moved on to something else. : ) He's adorable!

]]> By: Boot ~C http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/2010/03/pass-it-on/#comment-1824 Boot ~C Mon, 08 Mar 2010 06:25:49 +0000 http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/?p=483#comment-1824 My mom likes to say~"you pay for your raising", & somehow I am even w/ just nephews & a niece!<br /> ( & what was all that mess about spankin'?...) My mom likes to say~"you pay for your raising", & somehow I am even w/ just nephews & a niece!
( & what was all that mess about spankin'?…)

]]> By: PDeverit http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/2010/03/pass-it-on/#comment-1823 PDeverit Mon, 08 Mar 2010 05:46:15 +0000 http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/?p=483#comment-1823 People used to think it was necessary to "spank" adult members of the community, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual battery if a person over the age of 18 is "spanked", but only if over the age of 18.<br /><br />For one thing, because the buttocks are so close to the genitals and so multiply linked to sexual nerve centers, striking them can trigger powerful and involuntary sexual stimulus in some people. There are numerous physiological ways in which it can be sexually abusive, but I won't list them all here. One can use the resources I've posted if they want to learn more.<br /><br />Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:<br /><br />Child buttock-battering (euphemistically labeled "spanking","swatting","switching","smacking", "paddling",or other cute-sounding names) for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.<br /><br />Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.<br /><br />I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.<br /><br />There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:<br /><br />Plain Talk About Spanking<br />by Jordan Riak,<br /><br />The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children<br />by Tom Johnson,<br /><br />NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say<br />by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.<br /><br />Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit the website of Parents and Teachers Against Violence In Education at www.nospank.net.<br /><br />Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea:<br /><br />American Academy of Pediatrics,<br />American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,<br />American Psychological Association,<br />Center For Effective Discipline,<br />Churches' Network For Non-Violence,<br />Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,<br />Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps,<br />Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,<br />United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.<br /><br />In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child. People used to think it was necessary to "spank" adult members of the community, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual battery if a person over the age of 18 is "spanked", but only if over the age of 18.

For one thing, because the buttocks are so close to the genitals and so multiply linked to sexual nerve centers, striking them can trigger powerful and involuntary sexual stimulus in some people. There are numerous physiological ways in which it can be sexually abusive, but I won't list them all here. One can use the resources I've posted if they want to learn more.

Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

Child buttock-battering (euphemistically labeled "spanking","swatting","switching","smacking", "paddling",or other cute-sounding names) for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak,

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson,

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit the website of Parents and Teachers Against Violence In Education at http://www.nospank.net.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics,
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
American Psychological Association,
Center For Effective Discipline,
Churches' Network For Non-Violence,
Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps,
Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

]]> By: suburban hippie mama http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/2010/03/pass-it-on/#comment-1822 suburban hippie mama Mon, 08 Mar 2010 02:11:27 +0000 http://www.tashadoestulsa.com/?p=483#comment-1822 to stinkin cute! to stinkin cute!

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